Why Girl Bosses Can't Find Love

Cupid doesn’t like being scolded

Every week, there seems to be a new video that goes viral with an attractive young woman in her late twenties, complaining that she cannot find a man to marry or even love. There are many people who are completely wrong about the real reason these young women are so unsuccessful in love. How do I know I have the right answer? Because whenever I see this right answer implemented, I see these kinds of women effortlessly finding love, and when it is eschewed or ignored, the misery continues. I have observed it with friends, family, acquaintances and even with myself. I feel compelled now to share it with the world.

Wrong answer No. 1: Hypergamy

There are some who say (especially the women themselves), that these women cannot find love because their standards are “too high”. Women are “hypergamous” they say, in that they want a man who is older, smarter, wealthier and higher status than them in every way. It is of course easier to find someone like this if you are young, dumb, poor and haven’t built any status yet. This is a dig made by older, financially successful women, at young women in their early twenties and this dig is entirely rooted in jealousy (which ought not to exist when a woman finds her own loveliness, but more on that alter).

If this answer were correct, then it would only be very poor quality men who would ever attempt to woo or marry young women in their twenties, and yet, in the real world, these women are pursued by many powerful, intelligent and strong men.

Jordan Peterson and many of his unthinking disciples parrot the secular materialistic philosophy of “mating” when they say that when a woman makes more money it is more difficult for her to find a man because there are fewer men who make more money than her. As though falling in love were some kind of financial or status equation that must be balanced in a transaction. If only love were that simple! This idea comes from a fundamental misunderstanding of love, which can be corrected through socializing with real people in the real world and realizing what they truly desire: love, which cannot be bought with status, money, youth or beauty.

What a man wants (and what a woman wants)

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